Many self-help books ask you to look inside yourself to fix your issues. That may be true, but either way- I always go back to the gas-mask analogy from airplane flights – You put it on before giving it to your child.
The other day, I gave my son my protein shake before I drank it which is hysterical for two reasons: I was worried – should I be taking care or myself first? And are mine the only children that love and ASK FOR protein shakes?
After some deep thought recently, I’ve realized I am really lacking in self-love. The result of this has been a conscious out-of-balance soul and some serious brain fog. Currently, I’m taking steps to become re-balanced.
The first thing I did was start seeing a life-coach. We’ve met once but it was a powerful meeting. I told her I don’t even know where to start in terms of finding balance and peace. I’ve come a long way but she was very surprised by my story. I told her I’m over the shock of the road my life has taken, but that I’m still rebuilding and I’m not sure where I am anymore in terms of what direction next? We discussed my goals and she noted that my goals are not short, measurable and obtainable. This is insane because it’s exactly the opposite of what I teach my students AND do for a living. I had some serious goals in Jan/Feb/March- none of which I accomplished because they were too broad and unattainable given my lifestyle and responsibilities.
The thing she said that resonated the most was that we can “control two things in life: our thoughts and our reactions.” I have come a long way with my reactions because I get daily practice with my ex. My thoughts, however, are still not controlled. I want to get out of my head and control my thoughts. I am beginning by writing them down. This allows me to look over my thoughts and recognize and processes which are irrational. I have a lot of irrational thoughts- some of them about being a good mom (or not) and some about how I treat my body (or not). Time to make a change here.
My brain fog is back from last spring as well… which is honestly debilitating. I was beginning to write it off as something from allergies but after doing some research, I think it’s a result of diet and coffee. For someone as neurotic about their body as me, I’ve been treating it like trash. Instead of meal prepping, I’ve been grabbing whatever is in the fridge. I am not eating things that are necessarily bad for the average individual, but for example, I had a piece of pizza for lunch the last two days. That is too many processed carbs and refined sugar for me. Makes me feel bloated and [I think] gives me a headache. I have also been drinking 3-4 cups of coffee a day, which is insane. I get 8-9 hours of sleep a night and there’s no need for me to drink that much coffee. I’m really ready to make small changes that will lead to big results…so cliche, and yet so true!
So what are my small changes/goals? I want to stop weighing myself at the gym because my body is solid and my weight doesn’t reflect my body fat. I literally have no idea what my body fat and weight should be. I’m going to look into have it measured at the Y. (Add that to my to-do list- Thank you AK White for the tip!)
I am also going to start drinking lemon water in the morning because my friend Megan told me it has made her feel amazing.
My self-love plan:
1. Write down my thoughts- especially the negative ones. Then I can look back and re-frame them in a positive way- the way I would to a friend whom I love, hense: self-love.
2. Cut down on my coffee intake to 1-2 cups/day and replace 2 with lemon water/apple cider vinegar (mother) /BCAAs mix
3. Keep alcohol use to a minimum and only on the weekends
4. Cut out refined carbs (pizza- no, Mel.)
5. Keep track of the things that make me feel good about myself: being mindful with my children, wearing pink lipstick and nail polish, for example.
6. Embrace happiness- I have a lot to be thankful for. My children are beautiful and healthy, I have been blessed beyond belief by my parents and friends/extended family, and I am healthy and successful in my career- to name only a few.
So this looks like a lot, but it’s really 3 small diet changes (although they will be challenging) and three mental changes. I am not going to “keep track” in the traditional sense, but I’ll keep notes in my “NOTES” book Kate gave me for Christmas and check in in a month- around Mother’s Day- one of my favorite days of the year: ) That is how I will measure my goals. My goals are obtainable because they’re small changes and short because I’m going to “check in” in a month… less pressure with a “check in.” Stay tuned, friends…
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Some people think making changes is hard (and it can be) but I think staying the same is harder.🙌 I'm thankful I committed to becoming a healthier and better me.💕 In that first photo : the green drink in my hand is a store bought green smoothie loaded with sugar and probably no vitamins, and then I added vodka to it.🙈 I was most likely convincing myself that the 'green smoothie' made it healthy. Ha! Who was I kidding?😂 There was also an energy drink next to me in this photo but you can't see it. And chances are, I had drugs in my system as well. I treated my body like shit back then. And because of that, I felt like shit too.💩👎 No energy, poor digestion, brain fog, you name it I was probably dealing with it. But I just kept living life like that for awhile. Only looking forward to the next party.🍹🍸🍻 It makes me sad looking back and thinking that my life was ever like this and that I actually treated my body like a garbage can.🗑 But I guess some of us just need to get to that point when enough is enough🙅 and that's what happened to me a few years ago when coaching showed up in my life. The Universe is always bringing us exactly what we need when we exactly need it.✨ I'm glad I listened.🤗 Now thanks to coaching I have daily accountability for my health and fitness, + personal growth, and I am surrounded by a supportive tribe of badass women bettering their lives too.👭 Could I have become healthy without coaching? Well sure I could have…but I know for me having that ongoing support from the coaching community has been life changing.💗💗💗 👉Always here if you want to chat ladies about my joining my next virtual bootcamp to crush your health and fitness goals, or about bizzznassss if you want to learn about coaching.😘 #HealthIsTrueWealth 🌿 #TransformationTuesday 💪 #FitBlissTribe 🦄